Ep 98 Overwhelm
EPISODE NOTES:
Today I want to jump right in and talk about overwhelm, I was recently working with a client on the idea of feeling very overwhelmed around the amount of time we have to get everything done. Often times we have the list looping in our mind, we have no idea where to begin – and we remain stuck. Listen today to learn new ways to overcome the feeling of overwhelm and how to keep moving forward.
IN THIS EPISODE:
- Time as a mental construct
- Clarity on priorities
- Making powerful decisions
- Having your own back
- Your thoughts around time management
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EPISODE TRANSCRIPT:
Hello hello hello
How are you doing today?
What a nice holiday weekend
We were able to visit the fam
And spend some time outside
And work on the new course I’m launching soon
So much fun
Ok – today I want to jump right in and talk about overwhelm
I was recently talking with a client about this
And I thought it would be helpful to discuss here
Because I think a lot of us – are either currently feeling overwhelmed
Or we for sure have felt overwhelmed at one time
And sometimes I think overwhelm and anxious
Are pretty close to being related
Now
Lets start with what we think is causing us the overwhelm – or anxiety
For a lot of us
It’s around the idea of not having enough time
You have so many things to do
And never have enough time
I was actually just thinking that this morning
I totally felt my heart racing
And I had to stop
And examine
What was I thinking?
Because here is the thing friends
We have all these ideas in our head
Just looping around
Day after day
Of what we need to do
Respond to the emails
Get the boss the reports
Follow up with customers
Check on the patient
Figure out dinner
And we get so overwhelmed
Because our brain just keeps reminding us of all we have to do
And we don’t know where to start
So we just continue to feel overwhelmed
And don’t get much done
But let’s stop and think about the thought model
The emails,
the report that is due,
dinner
those are all our circumstances right?
Neutral
Until we have thoughts about them
So they don’t cause us our overwhelm
It’s what we think about them that causes it
And what we think about each of them
Is the key to finding the root of the overwhelm
So if you are thinking
Something like
I don’t know what to do first
Or
I have too much to do
Or
I don’t have enough time
My guess is
You likely feel overwhelmed
I remember I used to alwaysss feel like that
There was never enough time
I mean
Just think about how that thought feels
There is never enough time
Overwhelm for sure comes up
When we are in it
we think we are just reporting the facts right?
There really isn’t enough time
But that is totally a thought
And
An optional one at that
Here is the thing
We have to question everything
Where can you poke holes in that thought to prove the opposite is true?
You do have enough time
Well first off
Time is a mental construct
How much we get done
In a specific time frame
Varies for each of us
Why is it that a week of vacation flies by
And sitting in traffic for 10 minutes is infuriating
And seems like forever?
Because we have different thoughts about what time is
How could it be possible you have enough time?
How else can you poke a hole in the idea that you don’t have enough?
Well – ask your brain how much would exactly constitute enough?
lol..
This is such a good question for all the not enoughers out there
Me included
Not enough time
Not enough weight loss
Not enough money
Not enough sales
You feel me?
Thinking that over and over in multiple aspects of your life?
My guess is
Feels a little overwhelming
So take the time to stop
What do you want to think about your time?
Honestly
We always have enough time
That is never the problem
It is our lack of clarity on what is important to us
And around our time
That is often the issue
We run around by the seat of our pants
Because we think everything is important
It isn’t
Really
At the end of the day
What is important to you?
Figure that out
and get it on the calendar
Prioritize everything else from there
Stop telling yourself you don’t know what to do
I don’t know
will always stop you in your tracks
Take a guess
Trust yourself enough to know you do know
You know exactly what needs to be done
And you know what?
You will learn something every single time
It’s almost like a merry go round
Remember those things at recess?
I mean
Full transparency and side note
I hated them
I pretty much hated recess entirely to be honest
I was so not athletic
And I for sure was not the one to be trusted to get that
Contraption going
That
Oh – And that bubble of metal
Terrible …lol
Anyways
I can recall other kids being in charge of the merry go round
Remember how at first it was hard to get going
You take some steps
And the more you go
The faster you go
And eventually momentum takes over
That’s what life is friends
You don’t just sit around and look at the merry go round
You get up there
You start taking steps
And then you are going
You make a decision to get started
You take the first steps
You keep going
And here is another tip
Consider the idea there is no right or wrong decision
We think there is
And so we often wait to try to figure that out
And that keeps us stuck as well
But who determines if it is right or wrong?
We do!
So don’t start second guessing your decision
Because then you are right back where you started
Make the powerful decision
Have your own back
Keep going
Here is one thing I know for sure
Change is the constant in life
When we make decisions we can make changes
When we change we evolve to our next best self
And let me tell you
When you can start having less time in overwhelm
You will truly be able to do more of what you want
And that my friends
Is pretty fun
Ok
Thats what I have for you today
Let’s circle back next week
But for now
Stay safe
And make it a great day
Take care