Ep 91 Tiny Changes = Big Results
Today I want to talk to you about how tiny changes can lead to big results – lasting results in your life. I don’t think we give enough credit to how much your life can change when you make tiny changes. Today I discuss why thoughts and systems are the key to obtaining the new goals you want to achieve.
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IN THIS EPISODE:
- Being ok with not being Ok
- Atomic Habits
- Tiny changes = big results
- How Habits determine your health, wealth, and happiness
- Motivational Triad of Brain
- Systems and thoughts for habits
- Myths from our brain as we create new results
- Work with me – www.michellebourquecoaching.com/consult
Podcast Transcript:
Hello hello hello
Welcome back to the podcast
How are you all doing?
Like really doing?
I keep hearing my girl Robin Arzon – you know I love her from Peloton
And in some of her classes I keep hearing her say that
How are you really doing?
Because so often we go around life when people ask and say
Fine
Or
Well
I love to watch peoples faces when I say
Amazing
Or Excellent
With such enthusiasm
It’s like I’ve shocked them ..lol..
But there are days when I’m not really feeling so amazing
But we don’t always really talk about that right?
Hey –
I’m here to pass along the message
Sometimes its ok
To not be ok
And what I find is
When I try to resist not being ok
You know what I mean right?
Like when I tell myself I shouldn’t be feeling a certain way
Whether is annoyed, or worried, or anxious
Well when I tell myself I shouldn’t feel that way
It doesn’t actually help
Ever notice?
So I like to always remember life is 50/50
Sometimes we feel amazing
And sometimes we don’t
And that’s totally ok
So give yourself some grace if today
Is one of the days you don’t
Ok –
Let’s dive into todays topic
Today I want to talk to you about
How tiny changes
Can lead to big results
Lasting results
In your life
And I don’t think we give enough credit
To how much your life can change
When you make tiny changes
And by tiny changes
For today’s conversation
I mean new habits
Habits form our lives
In the book Atomic Habits by James Clear
He says “the habits your repeat
Or don’t repeat
Everyday largely determines your health, wealth, and happiness
Knowing how to change your habits means
Knowing how to confidently own and manage your days,
Focus on the behaviors that have the highest impact, and
Reverse-engineer the life you want”.
It really does come down to that friends
Remember
Our brain is designed with the motivational triad
That looks to avoid pain
Seek pleasure
And be as efficient as possible
So depending on the habits you consistently practice
You will have different results in your life
Makes sense right?
The work is in
Knowing and practicing
The habits that get you the results you want
Its the work I love doing with my clients
Owning your life
Managing your time
Doing the things
That will get you the results you want in life
Think about it
Your weight is a compilation of the habits your have
For eating and exercise
Your finances are a compilation of
The habits you have for spending and saving
Your relationships
Are a compilation of the habits you have
When interacting with others
Your work-life balance
Is a compilations of the habits you have around time management
Its seems so simple when you break it down
Into the little pieces
But our brain likes to feed us a few myths along the way
Things like –
It needs to be A BIG change
In order to matter
Otherwise, don’t bother
Or
We need to find the motivation before we get started
Not true
What we need is to know why it matters to us
And the reason has to REALLY matter
Otherwise – we give us when it gets hard
Or – if we have a fail along the way
Our brain likes to say things like
You fell off the wagon
You gotta start all over
Not true
First of all
There is no wagon to fall off of..lol..
And second
It’s not starting over
Once you begin making the changes
You are not the same person you were when you started
So you are actually that much more ahead to
Just continue on
Our
brain also likes to tell us
We will be happy once we get there
Not true
It’s still all 50/50 like I mentioned at the start my friends
I promise you that
I have changed my life in so many ways since coaching
And my brain still likes to offer me the thoughts
Like – it wasn’t one great big change so it doesn’t count
You need to make one million dollars in the business before you celebrate
And on and on
Here is the difference
I don’t believe all those thoughts like I used to
I know if I keep going
All of the changes are making significant
Lasting changes in my life
And friends
You have to enjoy the process
lol..
When I say that I think of one of my nieces
A couple years ago we were walking through the Dollar Store
Yeah – I know – I’m a big spender aunt..lol..
But we were walking through the store
And of course I had a day full of
Lets go lets go lets go
We are here to have fun
Its a fully packed day
And we have to get moving
And she looks at me
And says
Aunt Michelle
I want to enjoy the journey
I was floored
Kids are so smart right?
She wants to enjoy the journey through the
Dollar store
But Im thinking
No – the fun is up ahead
It’s not
The fun is here
So what is the goal you have
And more important than that
What are the systems
Or habits
You are putting into place
In order to obtain the goal
We can all have the same goals
We can all want to lose 5 lbs
We can all want to get the promotion
We can all want to make 1m dollars
We can all want to have work-life balance that works for us
But the systems you put into play
Will be what determines your outcome
And I’m going to pause here for one moment
Just so you don’t think I’m going rogue
Talking about systems
And not
The ever important
Thoughts
It’s actually a great opportunity
To point out the thought model
In real time
So lets say you start implementing new systems
For more work-life balance
That may entail
Setting priorities
Tracking your time to build awareness
Planning your day 24 hours in advance
Sticking to your plan
Having self care time scheduled
Learning how to say no
All of those items we put in the A line
The action line
Of the model
When you do those
The R line – or result is
You have more work-life balance
But what is above the A line?
The feeling right?
So what do you need to feel
In order to do all of those actions
In order to begin implementing the new systems
I will guess something like committed
Or determined right?
And if you are feeling committed
What would you be thinking?
Well
Something like
I am going to improve my work-life balance
Not matter what
That thought – makes me feel committed
You have to try it on for you
Now –
You might have the goal
Of more work-life balance
But if you have a thought like
I can’t seem to ever figure this out
My guess is you feel
Uncertain
And if you are feeling uncertain
What might you do?
My guess is
Not much
Right?
Because a lot of times our brain
Wants to tell us
I don’t know
Those 3 words
Are such dream stealers
Seriously –
You are not allowed to use that sentence
As an answer
When we work together
It gets you no where
So –
The systems determine the result
But the thinking
Determines the systems
Even a simple thought like
Tiny changes
Will give me big results
Is a great shift
From
Something like
I can never stick to my schedule or
I have to figure it all out
Or
I need to find the motivation to do this
No
Here’s is what you need friends
- Decide what you want
- Decide why it matters
- Believe you can do it with small consistent changes
- Get to work
Because as you make the changes you give see the evidence
Of how it is working
Of how you really are making tiny changes
That are giving you lasting results
And listen
If this resonates
Let’s chat
I love doing this work with clients
Small, Compounding changes
Changes lives
It’s so much fun to do
And so much fun to watch you do
So head to michellebourquecoaching.com/consult
And let’s get on a call to discuss
What results you want
And how to get you there
There is no obligation with this call friends
We talk about where you are
Where you want to be
And if it seems like a fit for us to work together
You will learn something
No matter what
Ok – that’s what I have for you today
Lets circle back next week
But for now
Stay healthy – and
Make it a great day
Take care!