Ep 87 What To Do If You Are Stuck
Episode Notes:
I am so excited to share some new changes and talk a bit about how coaching can help if you are feeling stuck. The truth is – the discomfort of making changes in your life offers you the opportunity to feel more alive than ever – vs – staying stagnant in a life you just live day after day thinking there must be something more. Listen today to hear just some of the ways it has worked for me, and start thinking about what you would want if we could wave a magic wand and help you achieve it. How fun!
IN THIS EPISODE:
- The discomfort of change vs the discomfort of stagnation
- The difference between therapy and coaching
- Past life living vs future life creating
- Feeling stuck
- https://mailchi.mp/michellebourquecoaching.com/itsyourtime
- Ready to hop on a consult? Email me at – contact@michellebourquecoaching.com and let me know
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EPISODE TRANSCRIPT
Hello hello hello
How are you doing today friends?
Hopefully amazing
I’m super pumped
Because I’ve been working on my 1:1 coaching program
And changing it up a bit
And having so much fun
And since I hear so many people
Say they are really not sure what exactly coaching is
Or maybe how is it different from therapy
So I thought I would share some of my take
On these questions
For you today
Because I think a lot of ya all
Know you want something more in life
Or
kinda feel stuck but you don’t know what to do
It’s like – you feel stuck –
And yet
you don’t even know what exactly you want
I totally get it
But at the same time
you are like
Hmmm…
I’m not sure how coaching could help me
Friends
You know
I am pretty open
about different areas
Of how this work has helped me
So I’ll weave some of those stories for you as well
Let’s dive in
To begin
And you have heard me say this before
I think everyone needs a life coach
Honestly – I do believe
Soon
everyone will have a coach
Just like we go to the gym
(or Peloton of course)
for your physical health
We also need someone to help
With our mental health
The state of your mental health
Is so important
And it’s not just like a
Self care
Self improvement
Kind of indulgence
It’s doing the work
To make a difference in your world
With your family
In your job
In your bank account
And
how all that work
Changes the way you show up in the world
Think of the money you spend
On so many things that don’t even last that long
Im suggesting you start to be open
To investing in yourself
And I promise you – that return
On investment will be unlike
Any other you’ve ever done
It’s funny
because a lot of times when I tell someone
I’m a life coach
They say – oh – I think I need one of those
lol..
Or –
Better yet
Oh – I know someone who needs you
lol.. right?
We always know best for others
So
let me start
by telling you a little about what this has looked like for me
And honestly –
I still do the work and have a coach
I actually have a couple of coaches
But when I started
So when I was just listening to the podcast that got me started
The Life Coach School Podcast with Brooke Castillo
I was at a place in my job
Where I was ready to find something else
I felt like I had noooo time
To do anything I wanted
I couldn’t do doctors appointments
If I did
they would have to be rescheduled most of the time
And I was a bit resentful
From previous years of not being able to even consider
Fertility option treatments when we were trying for kids
Because my schedule was so unknown and last minute
I felt like I was always running
And never having time to do what I wanted
At the same time
I knew I was also grateful to work
For an amazing company
But it felt like there had to be more in life
You know what I’m talking about right?
That voice you hear that whispers
Maybe there is something more
But I didn’t know what that even was
So how could I possibly get a coach?
I’ll tell you what happens though
The discomfort of not growing and evolving
Gets to a point where
You will make the move
To try something new –
Like coaching
Because the pain of staying the same
Becomes more
than the discomfort
Of trying something new
So how is coaching different from therapy?
Sometimes I think coaching
Sounds a little weird
Here’s how I like to think about it
When I hire a coach
I am doing so
To help me be able to see
Where I have some limiting thoughts
We all have blind spots friends
What I mean by that is
Areas of our life
Where we just don’t see our own potential
Or where we don’t quite get
How there could possibly be a different angle to
Look at something causing us pain in our lives
When I invest in a coach
It’s because I believe
The work they do will help teach me
To believe something new
About myself
So I can get the new results in my life
That I haven’t been able to get on my own
Make sense?
And I’ve been in therapy before
It has a place for sure
But for me
I think therapy was more
Let’s go back into the past
And dig around a bit
See what dark secrets might be causing me
To be the way I am today
But what I found is
Where therapy kinda mucks around in the past
Coaching says
(at least the way I do it)
Let’s get on a call and discuss
what do you want for your future?
I mean
We already lived in our past right?
No need to go back there
If you are looking for new results
You need new perspective
And new tools to use
So coaching looks at where you are now
Where you want to go
And we implement a plan to get you there
Let me tell you a little story about that
If you’ve been with me for awhile
You know
I used to really enjoy my wine
As a way to escape some of the stress from work
And really
to just be able to relax at night
I know this is a lot of you too
It’s not like you are an alcoholic
you just want to cut back
Because you don’t want to feel sluggish the next day
Or maybe
I know for a lot of you
It’s the extra couple of lbs
that frustrates you
The work I did in my initial coaching
Was learning some of the tools
To not want the wine to relax
And not from the old
Will power
White knuckle
And I have to tell you
Doing that alone
Has changed my life
I have so much more time to do
Things that make be feel amazing
And I still have some wine
But it’s different
So much better
And I was able to lose
Some of those pesky pounds in the process
I have to say
Even more profound then that
May have been
Changing my relationship
With time management
And taking control of my calendar
And not feeling like work
Controlled my life
And I still have the same job
In fact
This is so crazy
But since coaching
So lets say
Since about 2017
Where I was ready to just do
anything totally different
I won back to back to back awards
And increased my revenue to make
More money than I ever before
AND
This year
I’m taking on 4 new leadership opportunities
In different capacities
And its still the same job
Oh – and by the way
I started my coaching practice
Where I teach all the tools
To busy professional women
Who want to excel in your career
But without the stress and overwhelm
So you can do more of what you want
AND
I have never felt more peaceful in my overall life
The job didn’t change friends
I did
And so can you
This is not a podcast to say all the great things
That have happened in my life
Although –
I am pretty excited to share some of them with you
This podcast is to tell you
It’s your time
It’s totally possible for you
To get the results you want
Listen to the voice that says you can
We all have an inner critic
And an inner advocate
Listen to the second
You can literally blow your own mind
And yes – there is discomfort in making the changes
But I promise you
You will feel more alive than ever
after doing so
The alternative
Is to stay where you are
But
I think you know
Just like I did
The discomfort of staying stagnant
Can be way more painful
So listen
Next month I have a class coming up
In our free private online community
Which
by the way
If you are not there yet
What are you waiting for?
Go to michellebourquecoahing.com/itsyourtime to join
Next month I’m doing a class on relationships
This is a big one
Relationships with your boss
With your loved one
With your siblings
Whoever causes you the most grief..lol.
We will be digging into all of it
It’s a great place to get started
And when you are ready
Which – I think a lot of you are
Lets get on a call
I want to hear what you have going on
And I’ll let you know if I can help
I have limited spots so
We want to be sure it’s a good fit
Before you commit
Just send me a quick email
contact@michellebourquecoaching.com
To let me know you want to get started
And I’ll take care of the rest
You show up friend
And I got you.
Ok – that’s what I have for you today
Let’s circle back next week
But for now
Stay healthy
And make it a great day
Take care!