Ep 137 Leaving Your Job
Episode Notes:
Think you had enough, and ready to leave your job? I get it – join me today as I share a recent change in my team, my thoughts and some ideas that might help you if you are feeling so overwhelmed you want to leave.
In this episode:
- My weekend girls gone wild trip
- Coaching with my nieces
- Loss of team member
- Past experiences of loss vs today
- Questioning everything
- When to leave
- Taking your brain with you
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Episode Transcript:
Hello hello hello
Welcome back to the podcast friends
Whats going on in your world?
Vacations?
Summer weekend fun?
I hope you are enjoying
Let me tell you
I have a lot going on over here
And I’m going to tell you
I have been put to the test this week
As far as mindset goes
And I want to share all of it
The good
The bad
The ugly
Because I know I’m not alone in some of my thinking
And I want to kinda go through some steps
Or tools
That might help you
If this resonates
But first
I have to tell you
About my weekend
Because I think it also
Shows how quickly our feelings can change
And what can be done to help
Bring a little more balance to life
So
This past weekend
I had so much fun taking some of my nieces for a weekend away
The weekend before I did a shopping spree and lunch with another niece
I have to tell you
I’m totally digging experiences over gifts these days
So
I have the 8 year old and 12 year old with me
Btw
For the first time solo ever..lol…
I know – at my age I should be able to handle to kids by myself
lol…
But to give you some background
The first one
At like the age of 5
I think she had me peeling her grapes because she told me her mom did
Her mom was like …uhhh no
Lol
I can be a sucker
But this weekend
We laughed so much
I had them doing journal prompts
For morning mindset and the evening as we settled down
We did some yoga
A little Cody Rigsby meditation
Some future self meditations
Which
They would never admit in public
But they liked those
And it was just so much fun
Even the part when
I looked at the 12 year old
Because there was this terrible smell
And I was like
Is that
I was going to say a skunk
And at the same time she said
It’s weed aunt Michelle
I was dying
I’m like really?
How do you know this?
Seriously
I’m taking life lessons from the 12 year old
Thinking I’m imparting such coaching wisdom on her
So many laughs
And as I was driving home
I thought
I want to do more of that
I’m going to find ways to work with my team
So I can have more weekend time free from taking call
And then
I got to work on Monday
To receive a call that my colleague gave his 2 weeks
Which
Btw
I totally appreciated he waited until after my trip
Because the last one that left
Called me on vacation and left the same day
Yes
There was some coaching on that
lol..
Apparently it was only “my thought”
And not a fact
That was rude ..lol..
I tell you guys I do this work too right
So he’s leaving
Now I have told you
We used to be a team of 4
Then we went to 3
Then 2
And all along I do my mindset work
I get coaching
I do self coaching
And we keep going
But now it’s me
And we have a new hire
For the last one that left
But she’s not quite ready to go solo
So
I’m going to share with you
Some of what my thoughts are
And some ideas that might help you
If you are just so overwhelmed
You want to leave
I get it
First off
It’s a great opportunity for the one who’s leaving next week
It’s all good
Because you know
Some people leave
And burn bridges right?
So this is not that
But
My mind is still human
Just like you
and of course I first had thoughts like
This is crazy
I will never make my number without help
We have to train 2 people now
I won’t be able to take vacation
I won’t be able to do weekend trips
This is going to take away from coaching
Not again
This isn’t fair
I know right
Our brains can be toddler like
Throwing fits
This is what we call emotional childhood
Victim mentality
But here is the difference
I can see it as all my thinking
Not as truth
Because the truth is
I get to decide
Just like you get to decide
How you react in each circumstance
And for years
I just thought those types of thoughts
And thought they were the job
And notice
How terrible it feels to think any
And all
Of them
It’s so defeating
And I assure you
If I’m in that mindset
Feeling like crap
I will not hit my number
I will not be able to help patients
so
I took my day to be bummed
And Marc just let me sulk
And not try to answer any of it
Because of course
I didn’t ask him to ..lol..
Ladies you know right?
When we complain it doesn’t mean I want you to solve the problem
I didn’t ask you for an answer
I just want you to sit and listen…hahhahah
Listen after 15 years I’ve me being here
He knows
For sure not our first rodeo on having people leave this territory
He just says the safest …. Ummhmmm…
So
What are the thoughts you have
That have you feeling so overwhelmed?
Write them all out on paper
I can not tell you how just this step alone can help
Seriously
Because I didn’t do the actual writing
Until the next morning
And once I got it all out on paper
That alone had me feeling so much better
Because here is what happens
We get into these thought loops
We think all the worse case scenarios
Over and over
And start to believe all of it
When we get it on paper
We can see it
Question it
And then decide if we still want to think it
And by question it
I mean
Is that really true?
So for example
We will not make our number
Is that true?
No
I’ve had many years
Where we have been short people
And we make and even grow
Our number
Will I not be able to go on vacation?
Yet to be determined..lol..
I’m sure we can figure it out
I could maybe change the dates
But I won’t not be able to go
This isn’t fair
What does that even mean?
lol..
Really
You have to be onto your brain
Question all of it
And listen
There are a couple of ways to look at this right?
Because for a long time I felt like many of you might feel
As if I was a victim to it all
I have to drive here
Get delayed here
Wait around
As if I didn’t have any control over it
But then
I did all the mindset work with coaching
And everything changed
But I’m going to be honest
A lot of it was changing the way I thought about it all
Which was
And is
Great
But now I’m taking it ever deeper
To see how I feel about it all
A lot of us
Try to work harder
To not pay attention to how we feel
But when you sit for some time
To get clear on all of it
You can decide
Do you want to change your thinking
Or
Do you need to pay more attention to how you feel
Or
What you are resisting feeling
Here’s what I mean
Sometimes the answer is setting boundaries
But setting boundaries can be uncomfortable
Telling people what you want
Or
What you are not available for
Can be super uncomfortable
Because you might think
You don’t want to disappoint
And so you keep giving and giving and giving
And you get so resentful
But here’s the interesting twist
Feeling pissed off and resentful
Can sometimes be easier
Then feeling something like guilt
For what you think
might be
Disappointing someone
Am I right,
Or am I right?
It’s just really great to get clear on
What is all your thinking about where you currently are
Because the truth is
We all take our brains with us wherever we go
So if you want to leave one job
Because you think you have no control over your time
You are doing yourself a disservice by leaving
Before you clean that up
Leave when you know
You are in complete control
When you can leave
Just because you want to
Like ok
I’ve done my stuff here
It’s time to grow
Vs
I hate this job and I need to get out
You are going to have such a different experience
So
The thought I always end up going back to
We will figure it out
We always do
And my guess is
So do you
So be sure to remind yourself of that
That you always have your own back
And of course
I’m here for you
If this resonates
Let me know
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Ok friend
That’s what I have for you today
Let’s circle back next week
But for now
Stay safe
And
Make it a great day
Take care!