Ep 127 Your Level of Worthiness
Ep 127 Episode Notes
Episode Notes –
Please join me today as I talk to you about the idea of your level of worthiness. I am discussing your past worthiness with grades, your worthiness from the scale, and your worthiness related to your sales numbers. I will discuss how you are at 100% worthy, and what needs to be done to get there.
In This Episode:
- Definition of worthiness
- Worthiness related to numbers – grades, the scale, revenue sales numbers
- Being worthy in this moment
- “Doing” more to gain worthiness
- Online coaching program with additional bonus content – www.michellebourquecoaching.com/course
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Episode Transcript –
Hello hello hello
How are you doing today friends?
Welcome back to the podcast
And Happy Aprils Fools Day
You want to hear a funny story
Years ago
I mean lots of years ago..lol..
Like maybe 15
When Marc I and I were just married
I left a message for my sister
On April fools to let her know
She was going to be an aunt
And as I took a breath in the message
She apparently was so excited
She didn’t finish listening
And was telling her roommate
And then her roommate listened
And she heard the end of the message
Where I said
To a fish we just got
April fools
lol..
Ohhh. My God
She was so
Angry
I was dying
These days though
I’m don’t know that I have any great tricks
To play ..lol..
I’ll have to think about it
If you have kids you must do something fun to them right?
I know I would ..lol..
Totally mess with them
Ok
Let’s jump into todays topic
Because
I can actually link part of that story
To what I’m talking about today
The idea of your worthiness
And I’ll come back to that
Worthiness
How you see yourself in regards to being worthy
How we often think we can get more worthy
Or how we think we are not quite worthy enough
And listen
I’ve done a lot of work on this topic for myself
And I know old patterns of thinking
Still come up
So sometimes I have more work to do
Which is totally fine
You guys
I think the minute we think
We have arrived
And there is no more work to do to evolve
Well
life would be boring
So
What do I mean when I talk about being worthy?
Let’s keep it simple
Having worth or value
Or you could use
Having or showing the qualities or abilities
That merit recognition in a specified way
Here is something that might seem a bit foreign
You are 100% worthy
In this moment
And every moment
And listen
I get it
I know so many of us
Have grown up thinking
We have to DO something
Or many things
In order to be worthy
Especially
If you are in a sales career
Think about the importance we put on numbers
For example
Growing up
You needed to get 100%
If it wasn’t an A
Why not?
There is also some imaginary weight
That is the right number on the scale
And when you get there
Then
You think you will be worthy
Think of how you talk to yourself on the way there
Here is a perfect example
I was recently at a dinner
And one of the ladies said
She wasn’t going to have the bread
Because she was “being good”
So….
Does that mean when we do have the bread
We are being bad?
Think about that
And I get it
I used to say the same thing
You know what I like to do now instead?
Is pay attention
To how my body feels
When I eat certain things
Not listen to my judges judgmental brain
Tell me how terrible I am
But did you also notice
We might even get to that goal weight
And then
our brains
Try to tell us
Well
Maybe just one or 2 lbs would be better
It’s not quite enough
Just yet
Think about sales
You go from hero to zero
You are only as good as your last quarter
Really?
No
You are an amazing sales person
There are sometimes things we can’t control
There are some years when revenue might be a little down a little
That doesn’t mean you
As a person
Are any less value
And to my earlier point in the story
For me
For years
I thought
I would be worthy
When I had a kid
Maybe your are in place now
That you think it will be
When you get married
I was there too..lol..
But it’s just not true
The external things
Are not what determines your worth
I want you to think about
a baby
The most precious baby you can think of
100% worthy right?
Just by being born
Friends
That was us at one point
That is still us
We are all born worthy
We don’t lose worthiness
As we get older
It’s so messed up
We can’t DO
Anything more
For any more worthiness
And I want you to think about this
Really
Because a lot of us
Have continued to strive and strive and strive
To obtain this
“worthiness’
And yet,
We never seem to get there
It’s because there is no
“there”
You are worthy
And here is why this is so important
When you are in this mindset
That you have to keep going going going
In order to be worthy
It’s from a scarcity mindset
It’s never enough
But if you just decide
Right now
You are worthy
Well now
Your energy
Gets shifted
to so much more abundance
You can create from an abundant mindset
AND
You know what else happens?
A lot of times
When we are in the not enough mindset
We are afraid to try new things
To think out of the box
To take a chance
And we stay safe
We play small
But if you know
In your bones
You are already worthy
Well now what do you attempt to do?
You know
If you “fail”
Which by the way
Is simply learning
And if you know it’s learning
And any action you take
Doesn’t make you more
Or less worthy
What
Could
You
Achieve?
AND
How much more calm might you be?
Spoiler alert friends
You will achieve WAY more
And you will feel WAY more
Relaxed
I seriously want you to think about this
Being worthy
Is just you deciding right now
You are
I am
We all are
And here is how I know why
The importance is in us deciding
We are worthy
Just because we are freakin here
On this earth
To do some work
And it’s not dependent
on any of the external things
Think about the scale example I just gave you
I want you to think of that number on the scale
And you thought when you got there the skies would open
And you would feel amazing
And then you got there
And you thought… well… maybe I could
Just lose one or two more
Or
Well….I should tone up my triceps
THEN I will be worthy
Or think about the last time you finished
At like 100.5% to plan
And you thought
Man
I could’ve made an extra 5,000 if I was just able
To get a little more revenue in
THEN I would’ve been more worthy
And I don’t know about school these days
But back in the day ..lol..
My day
You could get bonus questions
I loved a good bonus question ..lol..
So 100 on the test
Should’ve been like
105 or 110
THEN maybe you would’ve been worthy
You might be laughing
Because you know I’m right!
So listen to me
There is nothing more for you to do
In order to become more worthy
Now
Don’t get confused
And think I’m saying
Kick back
Relax
Eat bon bons
And don’t do anything anymore
I’m saying
Do all the stuff
Become your next best self
Create the life you want
Do more of what you want to do
But don’t do it because you
Think you get some award
From some Worthy
Prize delivery person showing up at your front door
There is no such thing
You are worthy
Now what?
What will you do
With the one precious
Unique
Life
You have?
Just because you can
Just because you want to continue to learn and evolve?
Just for the fun of it
Think about it
It’s such a different mind space
And
It’s so much better
I promise you
Now listen
I’ve mentioned 1:1 coaching in the past
And I will be honest
When I started getting help with coaches
I started with an online course
Because I didn’t think I had any time
And I’m guessing you might think the same
So
I have created an online course
For you
It will give you all the foundational tools
I share with my 1:1 private clients
And you get to do
At your pace
So you can do a little each day
Or everything on a weekend
And then
You also get
1:1 coaching with me
Through an easy to use app
For the first 30 days
It is seriously
The best of all worlds
To get you started
And if you decide down the road
You want to commit to a different coaching program
Great
We can decide
But get started
With this initial commitment
Oh – and I’m recording a new video
For an upcoming presentation to a group of folks
Here at work
On this topic of worthiness
And I’m going to add it into the course as a bonus
That’s another amazing thing
If you get in
And I add to the course
You get all the extras
No additional cost
I want to over deliver to you
Like my coach over delivers to me
So you should totally get there now
And get started
It will help you
Feel more in control of your calendar
And
be able to excel in your career
But without the stress and overwhelm
So you can do more of what you want
It’s sooo worth it
YOU are so worth it
Head to michellebourquecoaching.com/course
And get going
Ok friends
That’s what I have for you today.
Let’s circle back next week
But for now
Stay safe
And make it a great day
Take care!