Ep 125 Focus
Episode Notes:
Ok friends, you are going to start getting more of my crazy brain here. Today I want to talk to you about how important focus is and why you might not be getting the results you want in life. Where focus goes, energy flows …. are you paying attention to where you place your time and energy?
In This Episode:
- Focus on my driving
- Focus on your work “problems”
- Focus on your sales performance potential
- Focus on your relationships
- Awareness of your focus
- Deciding to change your focus
- Work with me: www.michellebourquecoaching.com/guide
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Episode Transcript:
Hello hello hello
Welcome back to the podcast friends
What’s new and exciting in your world?
Or maybe not new AND exciting
Maybe just new
or
Maybe just exciting
Hopefully one of them for you
At some level
And if not
Today is a great podcast for you
To decide if you want
Something new and/or exciting
And how to get it
Ok
Let me start by telling you
A little story about how this podcast came to be
lol..
You know how I like to incorporate real life here
And hopefully give you a chuckle along the way
I used to filter much more..
But now I’m like
This is me
My friends know how crazy I can be
In fact
At times I think they keep me around
So they feel good about themselves..lol
So I figure
After 125 episodes
Of calling you friends
You might as well see the crazy too ..lol.
Ok
So let’s just say
Some people
Don’t think I’m the best driver
It goes way back
To like the day when my dad
Took me home from the permit test
And I was doing like 55 around a corner
And he said slow down
The sign says 45
And
I shall we say
Helped to educate him
And I let him know
That sign was in yellow
And that meant it was a suggested speed
To which he replied
I suggest
You slow down ..lol..
And then there was my Uncle Fuzzy
Who would ask for a blindfold
Before he got in my car
But for todays topic of focus
I’ll tell you a story about Marc and I
I don’t even get out of the driveway
And Marc has something to say about my driving
So 2 weekends ago
We were on our way to our favorite local restaurant
And he is like
Seriously
What are you looking at when you drive?
You are either
On the rumble strips
Or you hit ever damn pothole
And it was funny
Because
In my brain
I didn’t even really see the rumble strips
Or the potholes
I honestly
Had my focus
Way further ahead
One of my strengthbuildiers is futuristic
So it fits right..lol..
I was like looking at the light coming up
Maybe thinking about what I was going to eat
once we got there
Definitely not focused on what
Was going on right in front of me
So this past weekend
I thought
Let me change my focus
And you guys
It was amazing
How different it was for my brain
I remained focused on
Trying to avoid potholes
And the rumble strips..lol..
And we were like half way there
And Marc said
Ok – you proved your point
I’m getting car sick
Just drive lol..
There may have been a little little bit
Of who my sister calls
Spiteful Shelley
In that experiment …lol..
But
It really made me aware
Of how different things can be
When you change your focus
And I have to say
For me
The looking out more
Felt so much calmer
The focus on the present
Felt like it took more energy
And I think that is true for us
In so many instances in life
It is so easy for our brain
To worry about the future and focus on
What could go wrong
Or think about the past
And how we did
Or said
Something we shouldn’t have
But the truth is
Staying present
And really paying attention
To what you have in this moment
Is kinda challenging
But being aware
Of where you place your attention
And focus
Is so important because
Where focus goes
Energy flows
Let’s start with
Thinking about it from.a work standpoint
Do you focus more on what the competition is doing
Or on what you are doing?
Do you focus more on how your boss
Or teammates
drive you crazy?
Or do you focus on how you show up for your customers best?
Do you focus on all the ways you might miss your number
If certain things don’t happen
Or do you focus on finding all the possibilities
Of how you will make your number?
Remember
Our primal brain
Lizard brain
Monkey brain
Whatever you want to call it
Is designed
To find the negative
It’s job
Is to keep us alive
And in order to do so
It finds all the danger
And tries to keep us safe
But
We also have a more evolved part of our brain
The pre frontal cortex
That is like the higher thinking part of your brain
But
You must engage it purposefully
You must intentionally choose to think
On purpose
In ways that are useful
And that
My friends
Is the work
It’s easy to blame, complain and make excuses
And as one of my bosses recently said
Excuses are real
They just don’t give you results
And friends
We are looking for results here
Life is too short
To be wasting our time and energy
On blaming and complaining
Not to mention
It feels terrible
And pay attention to this for you
I know for me
If I start to see my numbers trending
Down lets say
My brain wants to automatically
Tell me
I’m doing it wrong
The competition is doing something better
I must not be good at this
And on and on
Kinda like a dog with a bone right?
Something your brain
just
won’t
let
up
It’s like a thought loop
That just keeps going and going
And when that happens
We start to doubt ourselves
And we feel more anxiety
Or whatever it is for you
But you will never take positive action
From negative feelings
And if your focus is on how you are doing it all wrong
Guess what you get more of?
That
Because you won’t be taking actions
To get you positive results
BUT
If you can see as those thoughts come in
That they are optional
And decide to change the focus
On let’s say
All the thing you are doing right
Guess what?
You will get more of that.
You start to gain
More belief
And confidence
In what you are doing
And you are able to take more action
From that feeling
Which will give you better results
It’s everything
Now
If you are new to this
Or maybe a little cynical
Or honestly
human..lol
You might be thinking
Well that seems delusional
If numbers are trending down
I should not be happy
And I’m not saying be happy
I’m saying
You get to choose
But let me know how beating yourself up
Has treated you in the past
Just something to consider
The opposite is always an option
The question is
When you place your focus
In specific areas
Do you like your results?
And it can also work
In your personal life
Think about your partner
How often do you focus on feeling
True love for them
Like
Unconditional love
Not
I would love them more if they did more
But just dropping into
True love
And as a reminder
You are the one that feels the love
And did you know
On the scale of feelings frequency
Yes – its a little woo woo
But love and joy I think
Are like the highest frequencies
that’s fun to know
Or
Are you someone
Who maybe focuses on
What they do “wrong”?
Listen
I’ve been there
lol..
And in the past
There were certain times of the month
I would let Marc know
He might not have been breathing right
I mean seriously
Our brain
Can do crazy things
Especially when
Splashed with hormones right?
Lol..
But really think about this
Because when we focus on on particular
Problem
I will say
For lack of a better word
Well then you see that problem
Is all the ways
But
There is always another way to look at it
Well
There are usually many different ways
To look at it
But you get to decide
Where do you want to place your focus?
Because here’s the thing
When you are focusing on what others
Are
Or
Are not doing
Guess what you are not focusing on?
Yourself
And showing up as your best version
Its funny right?
We think we know best for everyone else
And yet
We miss out
On the opportunities
To make ourselves our next best version
Just another thing to get curious about
This week
So first
Pay attention to where you give your focus
Your energy
Your time
Next
How do you feel when you do that
And last
Decide if you want to shift it
Do you like your results?
If not
You might want to shift the focus
Your brain is so powerful
Engage that upper brain
And truly create
The results you want in your life
It’s the secret sauce friends
Ok
Remember
If you want more free content
To help you with all of the things we talk about here
Go to
michellebourquecoaching.com/guide and get on my email list
I have 2 spots open currently
For private 1:1 coaching
And if you are ready
Just reply to any of the emails with I’m ready
And we can see if its a fit
Ok
That’ what I have for you today
Lets circle back next week
But for now
Make it a great day
Take care!