Ep 114 Moving to The Next Chapter
Episode Notes
Join me today as I reflect back on 2020 and discuss the idea of past self living vs future self living. You get to tell the story of your life – and 2020 in any way you want. What are the beliefs you have today – are they useful in accomplishing your goals? Do you live in the past – or look forward to the future? You are the author of closing this chapter – and creating the next on purpose.
In This Episode:
2020 Reflections
Past Self Living
Future Self Living
Who are you being?
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Episode Transcript
Hello hello hello
Welcome back to the podcast friends.
How are you all doing on this final Thursday of 2020?
It has been quite a year right?
And it’s interesting because
It really has been all over the board for people
I know some people who have had amazing years
Making a bunch of money
Finally having a baby
Having the opportunity to step up at work
And then
We also have people
Who have sadly
Lost loved ones
Lost jobs
Like really
Just know that if you are listening
You made it
And wherever you are
Is exactly where you should be in this moment
How do we know this?
Because it is where you are
And arguing with it
Is fighting a battle with reality
That you will onto win my friend
There really was no right or wrong
Way to do 2020
So whatever it was you did
It was perfect
And even more than
Making new years resolutions
I prefer to take this time to really reflect
And I want to offer that you
Give yourself permission
To take the time
To do that for yourself
Because the truth is
We get to tell our story
Any part of it
The way we want
What happens though
Is a lot of times
We tell the story in a way that doesn’t really serve us
Like
It’s just not useful
And a lot of times
Our brain wants to go to the past
For all the evidence
Of how either things were terrible
Or
To tell us how we can’t do something
Which is really a bummer
When you do want to work on new goals
So I want to talk to you today about
Living in the past
And
Future self living
So as you maybe set new goals
You can learn from the past
And move on
The past is over
In fact
Do you know how the past exists?
It only exists in the thoughts you currently have about it
It’s kinda wild right?
So often we think we are telling facts about the past
But usually
They are simply thoughts
And remember
Thoughts are all optional
Here is how we know
You can tell me a story about how you were brought up
And retell it
As if it is all factual
I can then go and speak to either
A sibling
Or your parent
And they can tell me an entirely different story
About the same circumstances
So it really is
How you tell your story
And here is what is so important
A lot of times
We just go through life
Believing these sentences
As if they are true facts
And tell ourselves
It’s just the way we are
So I’ll share one for you
That I only realized in the last couple of years
I was telling myself
So – I was a fat kid
And
The way I recall it
I never got picked for like
The teams in gym
And for the love of God
I never got picked for cheerleading ..lol
Which I might still be doing some coaching on
And
Im pretty sure I was picked last
For that scary game of dodgeball on the playground
Which
Side note
I am sure
You can not play dodgeball these days right?
lol..
I mean
In today’s day and age
I’m sure
Someone would be getting in trouble
When the kid came home
And said
They told me to line up against a wall
And slammed the ball at me ..lol..
lol..
Ok –
So that has been a story of mine
And a lot of it contributes to the thought
I’m not good enough
And listen
I know I’m not the only one here
Who has some form of that thought
I here it from clients and colleagues
But hear me when I tell you
What you do today is good enough
Thinking that thought
Is not
Who you are
It is simply
A sentence in your brain
And it’s important
To take the time to reflect
To see
And to gain awareness
As to what you have been telling yourself
And deciding
If it is something that is useful for you
To bring into 2021
Or if you want to let it go
If you don’t start changing some of your stories
You just keep living the same life
Over and over
And
Let me tell you how else living in your past shows up
Around this time of year
Lot’s of people will say
They want to lose weight
At the start of the New Year
You know what I’m talking about right?
Before Covid (and Peloton)
Our gym would be packed
From like Jan – Mid Feb I think
But then people just go back to the way things were
There are a couple of reasons for this
Maybe they didn’t have clarity on the goal
Maybe they didn’t have a compelling reason
And maybe
They told themselves something like
I’ve never been able to lose weight in the past
So what?
Your past does not determine your future friends
Don’t go to the past
For evidence of accomplishing a goal
You haven’t yet done
It won’t be there
You have to live from your future in that case
Not your past
It’s a huge difference
And in order to live into your future
You need to start implementing new habits
And consistent habits
Are more than just actions you are taking
They become who you are being
Are you being
Someone who loses weight?
Are you being
Someone who makes 400k?
What does your future self do
The one who has lost the weight for example
That you are not currently doing?
What does your future self
The one that has made the 400k
Not do
That you are currently doing?
See the difference?
It’s everything
The thing is
We think
I’ll believe it when I see it
That’s not how it works friends
You have to start believing you are that next evolved version
In order to take the actions
And as you take the actions
You see the results
But you have to believe it is possible first
Listen
Everyone was impossible at one time
And then
Someone had an idea
And someone believed it was possible
And someone created the iPhone
Like seriously
We fly in the air
And sail on water
You can totally lose those last pesky pounds
We can do so much more in our lives
Than we give ourselves credit for
LIES
Jim Kwick talks about these
As limited ideas entertained
We are too busy
Telling ourselves are aren’t doing enough
Or we aren’t good enough
Or smart enough
When we could actually be using
That brain energy
On creating something amazing and new in our lives
Where focus goes
Energy flows friends
So if you continue to think
Something is not enough
You will get more of it
You can decide
This is the year
You choose yourself
for that dodgeball game
And the playground now
Is your life
Put your self out there in ways
That scare you
Knowing
That you got your own back
You will figure it out
You always do
And you keep going
Now that
Sounds like a fun way
To bring in the New Year
I would love to help
I’m inviting you to join
Our online community
Where you can have access to
All the strategies you need to make the changes you want in 2021
To be able to do more of what you want
To excel at work
But without the stress and overwhelm
And have access to me for
1:1 coaching
It’s life changing work when you implement it friends
If you want to learn more
Head to michellebourquecoaching.com/course
And of course
Feel free to send me a message on the socials
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Ok
As we end this podcast
I just want to extend
My sincere gratitude and love
For you
Being here
Showing up
And making a difference in your life
I love doing this work
And I’m so excited for what is yet to come
And so it’s wrap for 2020 –
But I believe …
This is just the beginning
Lets do this
Ok
That is what I have for you today
Let’s circle back next week
But for now
Stay healthy
And.
Make it a great day
Take care!